Posting the 3rd line of the last song I listened to, “Stitches” by Shawn Mendes: “Your words cut deeper than a knife.” Words can cut so deeply. I have seen this to be true in personal relationships as well as on the job as a 4th grade teacher. I have become so quick to admit wen I was wrong about my words. Sometimes, even when I disagree that a word was hurtful, I still apologize. I had a parent once who came to see me because she was concerned I said to her daughter, “Don’t be a dingaling.” The mom was concerned that was a word she didn’t like me calling her daughter. She was very nice about it but still stood her ground. I apologized and asked her if she had a silly replacement word to suggest. She said, “I guess turkey would be better.” I’ve been working on calling kids turkey ever since. Of course, the trick is the context and the love you use it with.
Words are our responsibility. I think the biggest mistake we can make as people is to assume everyone around us is overly sensitive. The way people feel is their business and we should respect it. Words can ring in people’s souls years after they have been said. Do you really want to be responsible for that? We can truly make an effort to watch our words. Can’t we? At the same time, we should be careful to not be too sensitive about how words affect us. As a kid I was tiny. People called me names like “super shrimp.” I wish I would have never been bothered by that. In conclusion, don’t let words bother you and do your best to say only words like turkey. Now that’s uplifting!